Before you ever get into, a
serious relationship is advisable to talk about your dreams and goals for your
life. In order to build a strong relationship you need to have things in common
which are important to both of you. You both need to be totally honest with
each other when sharing your goals and dreams or you will find yourself living
with someone of which you have nothing in common to build on.
What are good goals for a relationship?
Why is it important to have a common goal?
Do you have to have common interests in a relationship?
What is the meaning of common goal?
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Here are some important goals to talk about and compare
1.
Do you both have the same need for
money and material possessions? If one of you is happy just getting by and the
other has a strong desire for wealth, how will you achieve goals when your
partner says, I don't see the point in working so hard just to get more money.
If you want your own business and they are not interested in building one with
you, can you live with that?
2.
How many children do you dream of
having? What are your beliefs in raising them? What if you are unable to
conceive of as a couple? Would you be willing to adopt? Are you ready for
children or do you want to wait for several years after marriage to have them?
These are questions that must be answered.
3.
What do you believe in? Religion?
Faith? A higher power? If your religious beliefs are different, it can make
life difficult. What will you do when you have children? Which religion will
you teach them? It is imperative to find someone that you can grow with and
share beliefs and religious goals.
4.
Do you dream of traveling the
world or are you content to be a home body? Travelers and home bodies do not
make great partners as one will always be forced to do what the other wants
which will lead to resentments on both parts.
5.
Each of you should right down your
dreams and goals and then hand them to each other. By doing this you will not
find yourself saying you want the same things they want just to keep the peace.
Then look through them and see if you have any that coincide. Then if you do,
great. Are they important to you? Do you have any goals that are identical?
Build, on the ones you have in common. If you find you have absolutely no
dreams or goals that are even close you may want to rethink the relationship
before it gets too serious.
Follow the tips above to keep
yourself from winding up with someone who in all possibilities you will both
find yourselves in an unhappy marriage filled with disappointments and
unrealized dreams for your life.
Show Appreciation for Your Partner
Once you said, I Do, did the
common everyday courtesies you used to offer and receive from your partner
cease and desist? Do you feel like your partner simply expects you do things
for him (her) and no longer believe you deserve to be asked please, and when
you do it, to say, thank you?
One of the worst things you can
do is simply forget about showing your partner respect and just expect. This is
your life partner; don't you think you both deserve to be treated with every
respect that strangers get every day from you?
A few years ago I was visiting a
girl friend when her husband snapped, "Woman, get me a soda!" That
alone shocked me, but what happened next was even more amazing. She jumped up
and got it for him. In order to get respect from your partner you must expect
it, and not allow them to treat you this way.
Now, I personally would have
laughed at him for expecting me to get up and get him a soda when he asked for
it this way. I would say. I don't think so. Have you ever heard the word
please?
Give your partner respect, and
expect it in return. How hard is it to use the same courtesy you used before
you were married? These simple everyday courtesies should always be used when
asking for anything from your partner.
“Please.”
How hard would it have been to
say, honey, I m so tired, can you please get me a soda?
“Thank You.”
Once they bring it to you, a
simple thanks or thank you will let them know you appreciate them.
And . . .
“You’re welcome.”
And when your partner says thank
you. It is very simple to say your welcome back.
Your life's partner deserves to
be treated with respect. You deserve to be treated with respect. These common
courtesy words never go out of style. Use them every day and you will notice a
lasting effect on your relationship.
Don't neglect your partner. You
must give your partner your time and attention if you expect your relationship
to grow and flourish. Married couples need constant reassurance from each
other. Make an effort to accommodate your partner’s emotional and physical
needs.
Notice
things your partner does for you.
If your partner does something around the house that you
normally have to do then be sure to make a big deal about it. Say, thank you so
much for doing that. I appreciate it so much. And give them a big hug and kiss.
Spend quality time together
Spend time talking, going for
walks or start a hobby together. If you have nothing in common, the
relationship can grow boring and you'll find yourselves off in separate rooms
all the time to either avoid each other, or doing something you enjoy that they
do not. Before you know it, you will be spending no time at all together.
Keep these tips in mind every day
when you’re with your partner. Add new ways to your list to show appreciation
and you will find you can't wait to spend time together.
Speak Kindly, Listen, and Grow Your Relationship
Marriage is a partnership. If you
want her marriage to be successful, you'll need to put your heart and soul into
your relationship.
It is imperative in any long-term
relationship to speak kindly to your partner. You also must be willing to
listen with an open mind to your partners concerns. When you are speaking, talk
in a clear and concise voice so your partner can understand what you are trying
to stay.
Do not talk in circles or try to
confuse your partner. In order for someone to understand what you are trying to
say, it is very important that you only put across exactly what you want to
say.
If you speak clearly, it will
make it easier for the other person to understand exactly what you mean. Do not
leave yourself open to be misunderstood. To start a conversation with your
significant other, be sure they are listening. Sit in a comfortable position
facing each other and look in each other's eyes.
You are now ready to start your
conversation. Look your partner in the eye and tell them exactly what you want
to say. If they are looking you back in the eye, they are most likely listening
to what you are saying. Ask them to repeat back to you what you just said and
what it means to them. This is an effective way to find out if they understand
what you are trying to say.
Make sure that you are listening
to them when they repeat what you just said. Once you are sure they understood
you right, go on with the rest of what you wanted to say to them. Be sure to
have them repeat everything back to you.
Listening is actually not a very
simple skill. You will need to practice with an open mind. You cannot just
listen, you must also try to hear and understand what your partner is trying to
convey. Since everyone communicates differently, this can be very difficult at
times.
When you are listening to the
other person, do not be trying to think about what you are going to say next.
Listen with your full attention. They deserve that from you, and you deserve
the same when you are talking.
Practice speaking and listening
with your partner. Set aside time every week to talk and listen to each other.
Take turns, you can speak while your partner listens and then give them a
chance to say what they want to say. Be sure to give them your full attention
and they will return the same courtesy to you.
As long as you keep these simple
tips in mind when having a conversation, you will be amazed at how much better
you will understand each other and improve your relationship.
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