Timothy and Veronica
Timothy
and Veronica grew up together, they went to school together and were very good
friends. As they grew older Tim realized that he was romantically in love with
Veronica and assumed that Veronica knew how he felt, he never told her.
He
did everything a man does for his lover for Veronica, he was always the first
to call her on her birthday, he bought her gifts on her birthdays, Valentine’s
day, on every occasion that gifts are exchanged and even when gifts are not
exchanged.
He
took her out on dates; they went to the movies, games together and with
friends. They were always paired together by their friends. She was the first
person he talks to about things that where bothering him and decisions that he
wants to take. They were closer than some married couples.
Veronica
was in love with Timothy as well, but she is the kind that believes that a man
has to make the first move to initiate a relationship. She was secretly praying
for Timothy to say the word but Tim never said anything, because he assumed
they were already dating. Veronica’s clock was ticking, she wanted to get
married but she was turning down all the men that were coming because she was
waiting for Timothy to say the word.
When
she was twenty nine, she was sent abroad by the company she works in for a six
months training. Whilst there she was still in touch with Tim, exchanging gifts
with him, communicating with him daily. She was still expecting him to say the
word but he never did. Then she met another man Gabe at a mall, she liked him a
lot but she was not in love with him.
He
asked her out for a date. A month after their first date he popped the question
that Veronica has been waiting for Tim to ask for some time “Will you marry
me?”
Veronica
was surprised but she asked him to give sometime to think. She was confused
because here is Timothy, whom she loves and has known all her life but he has
never told her that he loves her or told her that he wanted more than
friendship from her. And, here is Gabe that she likes very much and has known
for only a short time is asking her for marriage. “What should do?”
She
asked herself, she has to get married and she can no longer wait for Tim
because she does not know how he feels about her. So she said yes to Gabe and
they got married after two months.
When
Tim heard about the marriage, he was very angry and he called her all sorts of
names. But, she told him that he never told her how he felt.
Now....what
is the moral to this story? The moral is..... If you love a woman let her know
immediately...Act fast!
WOOING HER
Wooing
a woman takes planning and strategies as you have known. But planning and
strategy has to be within your means. You don’t have to break a bank because
you want to woo a woman. If she expects you to break a bank before you can get
her or make her happy then she is not worth your time, effort and money. There
are many good women out there. Leave her
It actually takes little things
applied correctly to make most good women happy. Follow these strategies and
you would never go wrong.
Dates
Going
out on dates is actually a must in every relationship, whether you have been
married for fifty years or just
starting. Our focus is really on the man that has just met a woman he is
interested in and a man that has
just indicated his interest in a woman he has known for some time. Though, a
married man can still use any or all of these ideas to woo his wife because the
wooing never really stops.
When
planning a date, men often think that there are certain things that they should
and should not do. Women are individuals, though, and what turns one woman on
may be very off-putting and aversive to another. By following a few simple
guidelines, you can make sure that the wooing goes smoothly and happily for
both of you.
A
word of warning; if you are on a budget, decide on how much you want to spend
and stick to it. Decide on an affordable activity and location, decide on
affordable place to dine out or you can as well have a picnic in the
middle of your living room, with a nice bottle of wine, candles and the music
of your choice can even do the trick if you play the game well.
Take
her on a planned date, to dinner at a place where she has mentioned that she
likes or on a surprise date to a good place you have tried and you think she
would like. You can invite her over to your place for dinner or Sunday brunch;
make it special by preparing something you think she would like or something
she has mentioned that she likes.
Take
her to watch movies, if she likes movies. If she likes sports you can go and
watch a sporting event together .Take her to the Olympics, just kidding; you
can go on a drive together to a predetermined spot. Serenade her sometimes by
singing a love song outside her window. Go to a coffee house and read poetry to
each other.
Call
your local radio station and make a request for her favorite song or any love
song to be played and make sure she is listening, by first sending a text
message to her asking her to listen to the particular radio station at the said
time.
Enjoy
the outdoors; picnic in your local park or at your local beach; host a candlelight
dinner in your own backyard, patio or terrace, use the stars as your backdrop
and candles to create intimacy. You can watch the
sun go down or the moon come up together. You can also visit the Museum or
National Park together
It is exciting to try new things, but don't go too
far outside of either of your comfort zones.
It doesn't really matter how much money you spend, or how gallant you
are. In the end, it's a man's sensitivity and compatibility which really impresses
a woman.
Gifts
Giving gifts is a good way of showing your woman
that you appreciate her, because that is what she really wants from you. When
buying her gifts put some thought to it, don’t only give her gifts on her
birthdays, Valentine’s Day and on other known holidays. Surprise her with a
gift from time to time. Buy her things that she likes, it might just be
something she mentioned that she likes during the course of your conversation.
Something you feel would make her smile.
It is not the cost of the gift that matters to her
but the fact that you thought of her and that made you to buy something for
her. It can be something as simple as her favourite flower, candy, chocolates,
bath goodies or pricey gifts like jewelleries. Something you are able to
afford.
Take the time to wrap the gift, and get a card.
This seems silly; of course a gift is just as good if it isn't wrapped.
However, giving a wrapped gift and a sentimental card will make her feel even
more like a queen to you. You can even give her pampering gifts like manicure/pedicure
gift certificate or massage products or give certificates. Let her know you are
thinking of her give her something special not generic.
Communication
This is a very important tool in a relationship make out time to communicate with her, call her when you promise to call, call her when she does not expect you to call, send her romantic text messages and if you are a good writer, write romantic poems. Be attentive, listen to her don’t always do the talking learn to listen to her. Make the effort to sit down across from her after a long day to discuss work, friends and your relationship... Don't force the topic toward the relationship. Concentrate on her, do not only look at her focus on her: her eyes, her body language and her voice, let her know that she has your undivided attention. Notice when she is happy and when she is sad try to make her happy. Let her know at all times that you care her. Communication is how we get to know each other. The ability to listen is a great tool, and in case you're wondering, no, it's not the same thing as hearing. If you're out on a date and getting your lady to open up is like pulling teeth, ask her about her interests and things you know she's passionate about. She might just need that little push to get going, and if talking about her passion for photography is what does the trick, just make sure you're all ears. By being an attentive listener, it'll encourage her to open up and chat away, and she'll gain your trust. And if you prove that you're listening, getting her to be quiet might become your next problem.
Be Sensitive
A
little bit of generosity goes a long way. This doesn't necessarily mean
monetary generosity. Perhaps your woman has been having financial problems, or
perhaps she's been having difficulty with a relative or her boss. If you lend a
compassionate ear, she will come away with a good impression of you and the
date you had together. Listening is a skill many men have difficulty with, but
it is one of the most important skills any man can possess. If her openness
makes you feel uncomfortable, just nod and smile. Try to find areas where you
have something in common.
Chivalry
Be
considerate; always show kindness and courteousness towards her. Open the car
door for her, offer to drive her (and drive safely, so as not to frighten her).
Always pay for the first date. Be punctual when picking her up. Be kind to
waiters and cab drivers Women appreciate a man who is respectful, as it says a
lot about how he will treat her and whether or not he respects women in
general.
Some
people find this practice outdated. Be awesome at anything; if you are smart,
show it off, if you are funny, make her laugh, or if you are good at sports,
give a demonstration. Let her know how you are different.
Pay
Compliments
Pay attention to positive traits, features and character about
her. It does not have to be complex, it may even be simply letting her know
that you love the way she is dressed or her hair is styled. Tell her things
like “You have such beautiful smile” State your compliments by looking her
straight in the eye this emphasizes the sincerity of your compliments. Body
compliments should be avoided in the initial stage of your interaction but
compliment do compliment on her later and always in the relationship.
Compliment her on her brains, jokes and talents and be very
sincere in your compliments
Conclusion
Never compromise your morals. If
the person you are interested in is not interested in you, then you should move
on. Some people are very polite and you may not realize immediately that they
aren't interested. But, given time, it should become apparent. In the meantime,
take it slow, and even if you are head over heels, don't reveal this right
away, at least until you are sure they are genuinely interested in you, too, or
they could use your attraction to their benefit.
Usually
it is best to reveal one's feelings step by step, not much more nor much less
than the other has revealed. However, people have very different ways for
showing that they are or are not interested, so do not break up, or step it up,
without talking things through as to where you're both headed. If you feel like
you need time to decide, do not hesitate to talk.
Never
be forceful. If you ever pressure her to do something she doesn't feel
comfortable doing, she won't be shy to say goodbye. Forcing her to do what she
doesn’t want to do is rude. Try to continue doing your normal routine, with
them in mind, rather than changing your whole life around them. Hopefully they
will want to have a relationship with YOU, not a clone of themselves or a tag
along.
The
most important thing in dating is to be conscious of your date's feelings and
reactions. If she's a high-powered lawyer or a free-thinking intellectual, she
may feel that your chivalry is an attempt to deprive her of her independence.
However, if she's pleased at your holding the door for her, keep up the
gallantry.
A lot of guys choose women who
are "arm candy" -- good-looking trophy girlfriends who bolster their
status among other men or counteract their own insecurities. That's all well
and good, but if you find a woman who makes you happy, regardless of looks, age
or social status -- or what any other guy thinks -- then you have definitely
won at the mating game.
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