There are a number of ways to begin dealing with loneliness
that involve the need to develop friendships, doing things for yourself, or
learning to feel better about yourself in general.
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Constantly remind yourself that the feeling
of loneliness is TEMPORARY and you will get over it in time
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Make an effort to talk to someone NEW. I know it
is hard, but you must develop momentum and the first step is usually the
hardest but most necessary.
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Put yourself in new situations where you
will meet people. Engage in activities in which you have genuine
interest. Meet with people of similar interest
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Join societies like church groups,
organizations and others
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STOP listening to lonely songs (e.g. All
by Myself – Celine Dion)
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OPEN yourself to others first. Don’t
expect people to share their problems with a closed person
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Don’t judge new people on the basis of past
relationships with old people. Try to see each person you meet from a new
perspective instead of bring judgmental.
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Intimate friendships usually develop
gradually as people learn to share their inner feelings. Don’t rush
into intimate friendship by sharing too much or expecting that others will.
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Don’t just seek romantic relationships. Platonic or
even casual buddies can be extremely satisfactory.
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Lead a well balanced life. Never
neglect good nutrition, exercise and sufficient sleep. One of the main causes
of depression which leads to loneliness, is the lack of those things.
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Spending time alone will help
you examine yourself more closely.
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Don’t be a parasite to your friends. If you seek
them for compassion and sympathy, they will be there for you. But if you
repeatedly drone over and over about your problems, it becomes a nuisance and
your friends will at best just entertain you.
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Reflect back on good memories and count
your blessings.
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Learn a new skill. Success in
achieving something will make you feel good about yourself.
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If you are having long term depression,
it is not wrong to seek MEDICAL advice. It is perfectly normal to get a
prescription because lack of certain chemicals in the body is also the
source of depression and can be treated easily. If we feel hungry and seek
food, having the right medicine in proper dosage is the right way to tackle
depression and feel less lonely.
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See a counselor and talk in
privacy.
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Spend time in Prayer.
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