If you asked most women today what type of girl men adore
and couldn’t live without they would answer that she would have to be an
Angelina Jolie lookalike or at the very least be blond, blue-eyed and have
killer legs. While this type of woman would definitely attract a lot of
attention, she actually isn’t
the type of woman that men adore.
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You see, while men are visual creatures and that first
attraction is sparked from looks, you would be surprised to find out how much
more men actually want from women.
For example, a team of sociologists conducted a study,
trying to understand if there was a common denominator that men found
attractive in women; that one thing that would get any guy to want to go over
and talk to a girl. You would never guess what the result was. No, it wasn’t
her breasts, her legs or her bum. In fact, it wasn’t any body part below her
chin and it wasn’t her features, either.
It was her smile. The majority of men stated that they found
nothing as attractive as a woman’s smile.
The point of this revelation is that you have to put your
preconceived notions and the rules society has beaten into you all to one side.
You need to understand that fundamentally, men and women are different and it’s
alright to be a woman. There’s nothing wrong with giving up control to your
partner once in a while, especially since it will make you feel better as well.
Society may have placed men and women on equal footing in
the workplace and perhaps some other areas of our lives. While it is absolutely
true that a woman can do almost anything a man can do and vice-versa, it is
also true that we have fundamental differences that we are hardwired with. The
problem is that when we try to overlook those differences and pretend they
don’t exist, as women, we end up shutting ourselves away from the world in an
attempt to be more like the men we feel a need to compete with.
Generally, this is most prevalent in the workplace, but,
unfortunately a lot of women carry this behavior over into their personal lives
and they end up hurting themselves as well as their partners.
Women are often afraid to be women, to appear feminine or
vulnerable because they equate it with being weak. However, quite the opposite
is true, because a woman who is in tune with herself and shows her
vulnerability wields much more power over a man than if she were to constantly
act tough.
We will be exploring many of the differences between men and
women in this book and how it is that those differences give us more strength
than any rules society may seek to impose upon us. And once you allow your
inner woman to shine through, then you will become the girl that all men adore
and can’t live without.
Being a Woman
A lot of the problems we have in our relationships stem from
a lack of understanding, in other words we have no idea why guys act the way
they do. In fact, they often don’t know why they act the way they do so it’s no
surprise we have trouble deciphering their responses.
However, before we begin to explore these fundamental
differences, it’s worth taking a step back and looking at ourselves in the
mirror because if we don’t learn to finally accept who and what we are, we will
never be able to make the necessary changes to become the woman men adore. The
biggest problem we have right now is our perception of ourselves. Women’s lib
has been taken to a whole new level and from simply meaning that women should
have equal rights to men in society, it has come to mean that women should not
be women and they should act more like men.
The reason for this is quite simple. Men are competitive by
nature, women are not. Therefore, to succeed in the workplace, more and more
women have had to become just as competitive as men and in many cases more so
because they start out with a handicap in the eyes of the competition. They are
women. Unfortunately, though, many women have taken this competition to a whole
new level and their drive to succeed has convinced them that being a woman
means being weak, so they have to shut off their feelings and act more like the
guys they work with.
Sadly women are grossly mistaken because our femininity is
in no way a weakness, but, in fact, a strength, as it is the one thing that
allows us to influence men much more effectively than any argument or
competition ever will. Men are disarmed by a woman’s softness simply because
men were designed to fight and women were designed to nurture.
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