What do women really want?

 

A KNIGHT'S TALE

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighbouring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur’s youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question... Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.

 

The question....What do women really want? Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, and to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch's proposition to have an answer by year's end. He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the priests, the wise men and even the court jester.

 

He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer. Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have the answer. But the price would be high; as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.

 

The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but he would have to agree to her price first. The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table and Arthur's closest friend!

 

Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunchbacked and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc. He had never encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life. He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible burden; but Lancelot, learning of the proposal, spoke with Arthur.

 

He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur's life and the preservation of the Round Table. Hence, a wedding was proclaimed and the witch answered Arthur's question thus:

 

What a woman really wants, she answered.... is to be in charge of her own life. Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth and that Arthur's life would be spared. And so it was, the neighboring monarch granted Arthur his freedom and Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.

 

The honeymoon hour approached and Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him. The most beautiful woman he had ever seen lay before him on the bed. The astounded Lancelot asked what had happened. The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared as a witch, she would henceforth, be her horrible deformed self only half the time and the beautiful maiden the other half.

 

Which would he prefer? Would he prefer a beautiful woman in the day or at night?

 

Lancelot pondered the predicament. “Would he prefer a beautiful woman to show off to his friends in the day but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old witch? Or, would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day, but by night, a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous intimate moments?

 

What would YOU do? Noble Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself. Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.

 

Now.... what is the moral to this story? The moral is..... If you don't let a woman have her own way.... Things are going to get ugly!

 

Let a woman have her way and you would be better for it

 

 

APPROACHING HER

 

You probably have a woman in mind that you want to woo or maybe you don’t and you just bump into a woman and you were instantly attracted to her , the first thing you would want to do is to have a conversation with her. I have noticed that most men find it difficult to approach a woman and initiate conversations with them.

 

Initiating conversation with a woman is a big challenge for most men, some are unsure of how to do this in a respectful manner without sounding rude to the woman; some can hold their own once the ball starts rolling; some cannot converse with a woman at all because they are too shy or timid while some find it hard to communicate at a casual level with other people (men and women inclusive) but   feel very comfortable talking about topics such as football, politics, science, religion etc.

 

The most important thing to keep in mind when approaching a woman  is that first impressions are priceless and are established within the first three seconds after you introduce yourself. This means that there is no room for error and you should also know that chatting up a lady is not like in the movies where you can just walk up to a girl and drop some cheesy one liner: then they are in your bed the next morning.

 

Don’t use pickup lines because they make the lady feel cheap and it destroys conversation. It’s hard to think of what to say afterward. Instead, start with innocent small talk, and you will have a base to build an interesting conversation on.

 

A trick that never fails to work, is to focus all your attention and energy of the creature before you and behave as if nothing else exists in the world. Focus on what the woman needs and not what you need. For instance women are a creature of drama, and will prefer a soap opera to a sport game.

 

Women sense and are turned off by insecurity, so make sure you look and act confident. Groom, dress, move, and pursue like a man who is secure with women and with himself. Be yourself don’t fake it.

 

Start by first talking and later making friends with the person you think is special. Most people don't like to jump straight into a relationship, especially girls. Find a reason to talk to the person. Make sure that they want to talk to you. Just talk about something that keeps the conversation going.

 

Be yourself and don't lie just to get to a special person's heart. If they find out later and you're in the middle of a deep relationship or maybe a time when you really need that person, they will leave for good. Let the person know that you like them. Beyond the cheesy sending a note through a friend, talk to them about something you both have in common.

 

If you are meeting the woman for the first time strike a conversation with her and let her know that you admire her and would want to know her better, introduce yourself and ask her for her name and number, if she is interested in you she would ask for your number, if she doesn’t don’t despair she might be the shy type or the type that believes it is a man’s duty to do the chasing.

 

Tell her that you would call her but don’t tell when. Make sure you call her as promised her and ask her for a date. If after the first date two dates what you expected was not what you got or you find out she is not the kind of woman you would want to have a permanent relationship with. Let her know that you could just be friends or break it off don’t toy with her feelings. Because if you go on a date with a woman more than twice, she concludes that you are having a permanent relationship with her.

 

If you have known her for long, maybe you have been friends for sometime and you just realize that you want more than friendship, let her know the level you want your friendship to get to. Don’t nurse your feelings for her in secret or assume that she wants the same thing. She might be romantically involved with somebody already or she might not want more than friendship with you.

 

Probably she wants you too but does not want to cross the boundary of friendship. Talk with her, tell her how you feel. Act fast before someone beats you to it. Don’t be like these two…